5 Steps to achieving the PERFECT Blonde!
Achieving that PERFECT color of Blonde is a process and if you are anything like me you are tempted to get frustrated with it!
Have you ever had this moment...you're brushing your teeth, getting ready for the day and you catch a glimpse of your hair in the mirror...immediately you take a deep sigh in because your not quite happy with the color of your strands? I have experienced that deep sigh moment more times than I would like to admit!
THE STRUGGLE IS REAL...
Being the youngest of 5 kids, 4 girls one boy, hair was a big deal! Wait...did I mention I was also born in the 80's?! So BIG hair, spiral perms and the bouffant were all the rage and to boot, my oldest sister owned her own Nail Biz and Hair Designs boutique! So I was the girl with a perm, fake nails adorned with a pinkie ring and of course the bouffant bangs...in ELEMENTARY SCHOOL!!!! YIKES!! Needless to say, I started dying my hair at the age of 17 which was my first jump from dark to light but it wouldn't be my last.
On the left you see me and youngest daughter when we lived in Hawaii. On the right you see me and my handsome husband out for a special "Back from Deployment" dinner. These pictures were taken...I'd say, about two years apart. Its easy to see that my hair styles and color were completely different! In Hawaii my hair was long and full of volume...oh how I miss those days with no humidity and a constant ray of sun shining down on my face! The picture on the right was taken in after we moved to Georgia and the humidity made my long locks flat, making me look like a wet rat...hints the drastic change! :) But I digress...
Its clear to see that I am the girl who jumps from dark to light and just about anywhere in between! Let's just say...I love to have FUN with my hair!:)
At this current moment, I am walking through that NOT SO FUN process of trying to achieve that PERFECT BLONDE again.
Although I am not far from achieving the pure brass free blonde that I am looking for, it has taken a while for me to get to where I am and the PROCESS it takes, isn't always pretty.
I recently read an article, The Beginners Guide to going Platinum, found @ www.buzzfeed.com, this article talks about the process of going from dark to blonde...it caught my attention because it was an excellent break down of a woman's journey, of not only going from natural Black hair to Platinum blonde, but it gave real advice on how to do so and STILL maintain HEALTHY HAIR! I was intrigued when the steps started 6 MONTHS BEFORE the coloring every took place! The process was a little something like this...
6 months before...stop dying your hair! Grow it out. 1-2 weeks before...get a deep conditioning treatment. 48 hours before...stop washing your hair. Anytime before...start mentally preparing to cut off some length in your hair!
So the Pinterest search began! Come on ladies...you know what I'm talking about!:) MUST FIND the perfect picture, of SOMEBODY ELSE'S hair, so we can show our stylist what we want...and we want it NOW!.....Moment of silence for my girl Rhea who loves me through my hair process...girl you ROCK!
YES! Pinterest scroll success! Now to decide! That's when it hit me...the article I read said 6 months...mine has taken far longer than that...but why?
Just like the seasons change, spring and summer fade away, I am often tempted to change my hair with the changing of the leaves and the weather...can anybody else relate? Its the summer time blondes and the winter dark tones that get me off track EVERYTIME! Its the reason I come into the salon with pictures like these looking in the eyes of my stylist hoping she can direct me to the one that's going to be "The PERFECT look for me!"
This had me thinking, why am I tempted to give up on the process of going from dark to light when the seasons change? My first thought...I get tired...even bored with the process and that tempts me to go back to the "Easier to Manage" dark color so I can "save some money" and "Just forget about it!"
That's when it hit me...how many times have we been tired of the PROCESS because we wanted to take the easy way out? How many times did we give up simply because we hadn't taken the time to think about the process ahead, commit to it and mentally prepare ourselves for the long hall?
One of the reasons I haven't achieved that PURE BLONDE color I am after is because I wasn't fully committed to the process. I would go to the salon with a different picture every time or even worse, no picture at all! My true desires were lost in translation because my mind wasn't fixed on one thing...I hadn't even fully convinced myself yet and because of this my desires were lost in translation. To be honest I was SCARED of the TRUE BLONDE that I wanted because I hadn't seen it on me in a while and until looking back on these pictures, I wasn't sure that I could pull it off.
How many times do we do this in other areas of our lives? We want to lose weight but we've tried so many things and they didn't work...perhaps we just quit to soon. We've wanted to step out in faith and go after our dreams but what if we fail? How humiliating would that be, what would people think...so we settle for less and live with regret.
I recently watched the movie the War Room, which started with soldiers preparing a strategy for battle. This hit home because the last time I was close to this PURE BLONDE I was welcoming my husband home from battle.
The soldiers in this movie didn't go to battle without a plan and in the end an older woman showed a younger woman, who struggled in her marriage, how to plan for battle in prayer.
For years I fought for many things, but my plans were all over the place...James 1:8 Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.
How many times have we all done this, in the areas listed above and in our walk with Christ?
We want to achieve that white as snow pureness, we start the process from dark to light yet when the seasons change, the voice of God seems to go dormant and the world around us gets cold, we run right back to the seemingly natural dark brown existence we know all to well.
If you want to achieve in any area of life, be prepared, there will be a process. Process: A series of action or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end...Maybe its going from brown to blonde, broke to debt free, over weight to fit and healthy or not even sure Christ is real to putting your trust in him...either way I want to share a few steps that I have found fundamental if I want to achieve in any area of life. For example, losing weight, like in the picture below. I tried many things but it wasn't until I took the steps below that I finally succeeded!
Step 1: You must make your mind up! Know what you want to achieve...no MAYBE'S, should of, could of, would of's allowed!
Step 2: Be realistic. What will it take to achieve your goal? Know that it won't happen over night.
Step 3: Make a game plan and COMMITT TO IT! You must Be fully committed, knowing there is a process and that no matter what it takes you WILL STICK WITH IT! No plan A, B or C's allowed!
Step 4: Be ready to make some changes! If you want something different, you have to do something different. Most people live life by the urgency, in other words we are just doing what it takes to get through the day, BUT we get the most fulfillment by the things that are most rewarding like actually losing the weight, writing a book, etc.. I recently learned, from Pastor Dave Minton, about the Ceiling of Complexity. The Ceiling of Complexity is when your present habits cause you to run out of a future...So I encourage you to be REAL with yourself...are you allowing your current habits to rob you of the future that you are dreaming about? If so, WAKE UP, stop dreaming and START DOING something about it...starting with CHANGING those daily habits.
Step 5: Be prepared for the mental struggle! We will all face struggles daily. Romans 12: 2 Do not conform to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.
EXTRA TIP...When I was losing weight, I tried everything...and the picture above wasn't even me at my heaviest! I learned that jumping from one diet to the next put me in a vicious cycle of losing and gaining weight and I was constantly unhappy. From that I learned that my game plan had to be realistic yet push me outside of my comfort zone. My diet had to be healthy, meaning that I had to change my eating habits, eat cleaner foods...pills and extreme diets wouldn't work, I had to CHANGE MY HABITS, not excuse them and use a quick/temporary fix, but instead I had to do what was healthy for my body.
A solider wouldn't go to battle without his strategy so why should we?
I've learned that as long as I went without a game plan, I never achieved my goals and even if I was close I was tempted to change my mind again and this only prolongs the process.
God's plans for us doesn't include us chasing our own tails in a circle. Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you not to harm you, plans to give you a HOPE and a FUTURE.
To me that says that God knows the PURE BLONDE is coming...I just have to do my part, have faith and be COMMITT to walking through the process!
Is there a process you are walking through today? Maybe one you need to start? I would love to have the opportunity to hear about it and to stand in prayer with you. So don't hesitate to comment below or click the contact me button at the top of my website to send me a private message...you don't have to go through it alone. Ezra 10: 4 Rise up; this matter is in your hands. We will support you, so take courage and do it.
For all of you who actually read all the way through, THANK YOU! I know if you were looking for those steps for how to achieve the perfect blonde you may still wants some tips:) So the picture below is full of some of the products currently I love!
Special should out to my stylist Rhea Hernandez, girl we are sticking with the last picture I sent! lol Thank you for your patience.